It's no use crying over burnt biscuit!

Sam looks at me with tear-filled eyes. I just got there and have no clue why she is crying. My husband explains to me that our daughter must first eat her dinner before she can eat cake. Obviously from the tears Sam is not listening. She insists on telling me that she wants cake. I can tell a meltdown is coming and I start to feel a little flustered because we are at my cousin’s house and there are other people eating dinner with them too. She insists on cake. "I want cake" I want cake" over and over. I explained that the others want to eat their dinner in peace and that no one is going to give in and give her cake. As she starts to cry louder I lift her and bring her into the other room. She remains on the floor crying. Then she started to yell/cry louder. This is a tactic she uses when other people are around. She thinks if she cries/yells then other people will feel sorry for her. I keep explaining it will not work. She gets launder and more annoying as we go. At this point I remind her that we are at my cousin’s apartment and that the people downstairs are going to hear her yelling and crying and we will all get into trouble. She slows down enough to consider this though then keeps repeating "I want cake". At this point I am so frustrated that she won’t just stand up and talk to me. I get so frustrated that I spanked her bottom a few times and threatened to take her home right away if she did not stop yelling and crying. This is when she starts in with “I can't stop”. Sob after shaky sob she yells “I can’t stop". After a few more mins I am able to convince her to talk to me even though she does not want to stand up. We eventually negotiate that if she eats a bite of biscuit and a bite of ham she will be allowed to have a small piece of cake. She haggles a bit on this but gives in. So we go back to the table. When we get there she starts all over again at square one and I pick her up and bring her back into the other room. I kept explaining that we had an agreement and that she was disrupting dinner for the others. We renegotiate that if she just eats all the biscuit she can have cake. So we go to try it again. When we get back her place had been switched and she freaked over this too. It took a min to convince her to take a deep breath and explained what she wanted. She inhales as instructed and blows out like she does when she is practicing breathing with pinwheels. “Mommy, Rose had set me next to Jil". Ok so she wanted to sit next to her other cousin. Daddy offers his seat and after a moment of confusion she accepts and takes it. She sits down takes a bite and begins to cry. She throws the bread back onto the plate and yells "Mommy it burns me". She then starts to cough and gag and proceed to spit it out! I become angrier at this point and advise her not to spit it out on the floor. I told her she needed to chew and swallow because the biscuit was not hot and it did not burn her. She insisted it burns, it burns, and it burns! She holds the piece she bit off in her mouth for about 20 mins. Chewing slowly and crying, she then explains that the bottom of the biscuit is burnt and because it is burn it is burning her tongue. My husband grabs the biscuit tears the burnt piece off the bottom and asks her to spit out the piece she has in her mouth. She smiles after this and says “Thanks daddy" and shoves the rest of the biscuit in her mouth! She smiles happily as she munches away eating the whole thing, acting as if nothing ever happened and she had been sitting and eating dinner with everyone else the whole time.